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5 ways –  How to speak confidently? |  Improve Communication skills & Personality development

5 ways – How to speak confidently? | Improve Communication skills & Personality development

Congratulations to you, but for what? Congratulations
to you for clicking on this video coz this is the video where you are going to master
the art of communication once and for all. I really like the word art of communication.
Communicating is almost like art where you have certain tools which you should be smart
enough to use them to make your communication very, very effective. So like an artist you
are also going to learn how to communicate effectively through this session on Skillopedia,
the place to learn skills for the real world. So to communicate effectively the first point
that you need to keep in mind is word choice. Why is word choice so important? Well it is
because words have the power. They have the power to build nations and words also have
the power to destroy humans. So be very careful about the words that you use. Words really
affect your relationships and they really impact the image that other people carry of
you. If you use negative words all the time, words like worthless, hopeless. It doesn’t
give a very good impact and the person talking to you doesn’t feel positive about you. So
make sure that your words are meaningful as long as the listener can understand you. They
should be colourful and positive. It’s great to use words like acceptance, extraordinary,
a word like positive and a word like possible, it’s possible. Try not to say too often that
it’s just impossible to do it. Rather you should say that it’s possible which gives
a great impact to the listener. The second thing that you need to be very careful about
is not using slangs in your everyday speech as long as you are talking at work. If you
are talking to your friends it’s alright to use slang words. But you should not use slang
words when you are talking to people at work or at professional relationships. The third
thing that you need to be very careful about is not slurring. So slurring is when you speak
out words very quickly and no one can understand what you said, when you just said so quickly
that people don’t understand. So make sure that your words are distinct and very clear
and you use positive, impactful words to make your relationships better. The second way to master the art of communication
is by expanding your vocabulary. In the previous tip I talked to you about word choice. So
how can you choose among words if you don’t have enough words in your vocabulary bank?
So you should make an attempt to expand your vocabulary by reading vocabulary books or
watching our videos on vocabulary at let’s talk. This is on way to strengthen your vocabulary
and sound more educated, more learned to those who are listening to you. But you have to
be very careful when it comes to vocabulary. You can use good and hard vocabulary with
people that you think can understand. But if you think that a lay person would not understand
difficult vocabulary, so that’s time where you need to use graded vocabulary which means
easier vocabulary. The second thing that you need to take care of is the intonation when
you speak. So intonation is the rising and the lowering tone of your voice. If I speak
to you in a monotone, I will almost sound like a robot. And I will not be able to catch
your attention. So it’s important that you have a rising tone and a lowering tone, so
that you can keep the attention of the speaker to yourself and only yourself. The third thing
that you need to take care about is the pace of your speech. So if you speak way too fast.
Obviously the hearer would not be able to understand. But sometimes when you are speaking
fast, it also reflects that you are very excited. So if you want to hide your excitement try
and speak a bit calmly, which reflects thoughtfulness and intelligence of course. And the last tip
that you need to take care about is your volume. So can definitely not speak in one volume
and just go on in that volume. Just imagine if a painter used only one paint in the painting,
that wouldn’t be nice, right? We want lots of colours. So in the same way the volume
of your speech should keep changing. You should take the hearer or the listener on a roller-
coaster ride of communication, where you go up and you go down. They have a great experience
listening to you, having all their attention exclusively to you. The third tip that I have for you is to use
your emotions as an effective communicator. The key here is to not let your emotions overflow.
So you should show your emotions without being too emotional. It doesn’t matter if you cry
in front of someone. You don’t need to feel about it. They know that you are a very passionate
person who desires success, has certain aims and ambitions. But if you cry in front of
someone, it shows a very tender side of you. It shows that you are a very soft hearted
person who understands another person’s situation. Even if you get angry, it’s not that bad,
really? Unless you get angry very often. Sometimes anger reflects seriousness. So if you are
very serious about a matter and you have an intense expression on your face, an intense
emotion, then it is alright. It will help the listener to understand the seriousness
of the situation and sometimes if you laugh a lot like you do most of the time. It shows
that there is a fun side to you and that you don’t take difficult circumstance too seriously.
So it’s alright if you show your emotions, they can be a very powerful tool to communicate
with someone. So don’t shy away from your emotions. Show them but use them to communicate
effectively. The fourth key to perfect communication is
perfect enunciation. Does this mean same as pronunciation? No pronunciation is to say
out a word correctly. But enunciation means to say out a word clearly. So I like I told
you in a tip before this that you should not slur while you speak. This means that you
should not speak words too quickly. The point is that you should speak out your words clearly
and distinctly so that the listener can understand you. However, it is important that you don’t
sound unnatural by distinctly saying every word, which will go very wrong. So what’s
needed it that it should be clear but not very distinct. So make sure you get the enunciation
right so that the listener can hear the punch in your voice when you are talking. All the tips that we have looked at before
are where we are talking about verbal communication where you use your words. It’s very important
that what you say through words, it really impacts your communication but as important
is what you don’t say while you are communicating. Here we are talking about your body language.
Which means how do you use your hand and how do you use your body, what position are you
sitting in. Are you looking into the eyes of the person that you are talking to? All
these points really affect your communication very strongly. So if you sit with hands like
this and you don’t move them at all. This stiffness shows that you are kind of a bit
arrogant person who is not interested in listening to the other person. Maybe you are not arrogant
and you are really interested in the communication but it shows that you are not. So it’s better
to keep your hands loose and be very demonstrative with your hand. Now this doesn’t mean that
go around making different patterns with your hand and the listener would think, ok what
is she going to do next? Not like that, but that you use them to express yourself correctly.
Now coming to your eyes. It’s very important that you look in the eyes of the person that
you are talking to. Have you ever spoken to somebody who is not looking into your eyes
and is looking everywhere except at you? What does it show; it reflects a lack of interest
in what you are talking. So that person is possibly not interested in listening to you.
So if you do that to someone for any reason. Make sure you don’t do that anymore and you
look carefully in their eyes and show that you are interested in listening to them. The
final thing that you need to be careful about in terms of body language is position. Especially
when you are in a meeting or giving a presentation. You should be very careful about where you
are standing and how you are standing. Sometimes you would choose to even sit down while giving
a presentation which is absolutely correct. There’s nothing wrong about it, just that
it shows that you are very casual. But it’s ok to be casual if you are working with your
close colleagues or people that you know very well. However, if you are giving a meeting
to about a thousand people. It’s important that you stand, which shows strength in what
you are talking and it catches the listener’s attention entirely. So these are the tips
for body language. Make sure that you incorporate them in your communication because this is
as important as the words you choose. The idea for all these principles that I have
shared with you is to add variety to your communication. Think of yourself, would you
like to talk to a person who talks at one speed, one tone, without any emotion, without
any passion? No, that person is too predictable and you know what they are going to say and
you even lose interest when they are talking. So the challenge is that you should use all
these tips that I have shared with you and become a master communicator, effective communicator.
Make sure you practise all of these tips in your everyday life and I hope this was very
helpful for you. So thank you, this is Michelle signing off from Skillopedia, the place to
learn skills for the real world.

100 comments on “5 ways – How to speak confidently? | Improve Communication skills & Personality development

  1. I dont accept as a teacher because your expressions ,feelings,smile,movements,explanation,smile,corage is not like that but only thing is your belive system on yourself

  2. I enjoy the videos! Is it possible to turn the music lower to make it easier to listen please? Keep the videos rolling βš“οΈοΈ

  3. I'm very much slurring 😞 can I do something to avoid this? People usually don't give proper attention due to this hence my confidence goes down 😫

  4. I have a problem I can't took ayes of person .when I talk to him or her Whyyy give me a tips… How can I look into his eyes

  5. you are really awesome presentator..
    I am a fearness people. Confidence level is zero. For the reason I am unable to speak english..

  6. Hi, this 5 steps its important steps, i like the way you talk its great but my small suggestion please power up your voice. it should be more energetic voice. thank you very much.

  7. Hello Mam,
    Can you advice me some tips to how I remove slurrness from my speaking habbit plzz πŸ˜ŠπŸ€—

  8. Body language in most cases convey more message than the words we use in communication.Most often,words may disappear but body language is able to communicate.

  9. 1.Choose your word wisely
    2. Expand your vocabulary
    3.Emotions while speaking are vital
    4. Create a punch with correct enunciation
    5. Make use of body language appropriately

    You're welcome😁

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