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How to Attract Others With Your Body Language? | Personality Development | BV Pattabhiram

How to Attract Others With Your Body Language? | Personality Development | BV Pattabhiram

Greetings. How are you? We have made some episodes
on communications. Among them, We have learnt how the communications
should be, that is how to speak. And how not to speak. We have learned all of these. Today I am going to talk about
non-verbal communication. Non-verbal means, there would be no talks. Communicating without actually speaking. You might think how is it possible
to communicate without speaking. Communicating without actually
speaking is a very powerful process. How it would be is,
basically, it is a body language. Especially our facial
expressions while we talk. You might have watched the deaf and
dumb news. They wouldn’t speak at all. Even a traffic police constable
wouldn’t speak anything to anyone. He just waves like this. In the field of magic, there is a
magician named Chokkapu Venkata Ramana. He has developed a new technique. Nobody did that before in any country. He has combined both mime and
magic which he calls its Mimomagic. Mimomagic. It means performing the magic
without speaking. Actually, we need to talk
in order to perform magic. For example, he used to show two boxes. These are the two boxes with the
same size in all the aspects. They look like this. Without talking anything, There is a red box and a black box. Place it this way. He used to do this gesture,
to figure out which box is bigger. We could know that just by
looking at it; right? The red box is bigger
and black box is smaller. Again he would show both the
boxes in all the angles. Later we would place the
black one here. He would do like this. The black box is bigger than the red box. We might think how he did that.
Of course, it is a magical item. It is called a mime which
is action without words. There are a lot of artists
in the pantomime. Especially in the Telugu states, Artists like Jenny, Kaladhar, Madhu etc.
and they were doing wonders in this field. Earlier the pantomime was
confined to foreign countries alone. But now our people are also
doing it very well. Mime is the most important thing. So today, what my subject would be is, How do communicate when you speak, right? Without doing anything, Just with the eye movement and the lips
we can convey a message to a person. For example, I have a board. Let us draw two circles on the board. Imagine that these are faces. If I draw like this, we can say
that he is happy by looking at it. The same thing is drawn in reverse, It looks as if it is
crying like those in masks. It means, how does it
look when you speak? The first thing you have to remember is that
you have to communicate this way. If it is in reverse, your conversation
would stop at that point. Let us do a small exercise. Now, close your eyes and try to imagine. It is not a hypnotism. Close your eyes. You are chit-chatting with your friend. You were in your friend’s house.
Suddenly somebody knocked the door. The friend went and opened the door.
He asked, “Who are you?” Then the person said, “I wanted to
speak to him” pointing towards you. You would ask what is the matter and he says
that there was an emergency at your home. Then you started to worry
about what might have happened. Immediately you have started for home. You had fear inside, You were thinking if something happened
to your mother or father or relatives. You have gone running.
And after going home, It happened just as expected. Someone has expired and they have laid
down the body with a white cloth covering it. And all of them whom you have
remembered were all crying around. You were sad and you went
near to know who it was, You were invisible and you tried to
uncover the cloth, and it was you. Everybody was crying and
you have come outside. There, everybody was talking
to each other near the door. You have heard their conversation. In that conversation everybody
were criticizing you. He created the tension to
all the family members. It is because of him, it happened like that. He doesn’t have proper education, proper
job, proper behaviour or proper friends. Everybody was
speaking ill of you. Ok. You have felt so
dejected and came outside. Now, you open your eyes. You have analysed about the things
about which they have scolded you. You have changed your behaviour
so that you would be like all the others. And not being stubborn and narrow minded. So, you have changed. Now, close your eyes again. After you close your eyes,
the same scene had repeated. You were sitting with your friends. Somebody came. And knocked the door. They have asked for you. You have asked them what is the matter. They have asked you to come
home as there was an emergency. You have gone running. After you reach there,
it was the same scene. Everybody were crying. There was a dead body in the middle. It was covered with a cloth. When you uncovered it,
it was you. Everybody are crying. There were relatives and family members who
were talking to each other near the wall. How cruel God is!
How could he take away a good human? He had taken away a very
good man/girl. How good she or he was in terms
of love and behaviour. She or he had a lot of admiration for
the relatives and even friends. This person went to such a high position
though they had troubles. Everybody was praising you and they
were genuinely crying. Now, open your eyes. This is a very wonderful exercise. A person called Stephen R Covey had
said ‘Begin with the end’, Where it explains how to
remain in the final stages. As we have seen the second end, Think about it and, Correct your small faults and don’t be
like ‘It is my wish and will’ stubbornly, I have to change and the people
should talk good about me after my death. You might think that you wouldn’t
mind what everybody talks about you. They would talk but not with admiration. Till today, no one named their babies on
the names of Hitler or any other bad people. There might be a few admirers
but that is a different issue. So, when we come to our subject, Look here, there are eggs.
Basically, it is a single egg. The eyes and the face, Each one being different on every egg,
we could understand the expression; right? What he says about non-verbal
communication is, It influences the way a message
is interpreted by the receiver. You need not talk anything.
That communicates a message. “Includes all unwritten and
unspoken words” says he. Let me tell you how they would be. He says “Non-verbal cues speak
louder than words”. If all your family members stay silent, You would feel restless on that day. Even in general, they speak very less, But on that day, they were
deliberately avoiding you. Here the most important point is, These cues contain upto 93%
of the meaning of a message. They would give 93% of the message. How would they be?
There are few methods. Look. The first one is posture. When they come, if you be like this it means
that I am not interested in talking to you. The cinema directors would design
the postures in a wonderful way. The second one is the body language. Body manguage means, If I stare like this, when someone is
talking, it implies “What the hell do you know?” The third one is eye contact. Though he is speaking, if we look
down without making any eye contact. Next is blinking. Blinking constantly when someone speaks. Next one is tone. There is a difference between saying
“Yeah so what?” and “Okay so what happened?” And saying “Tell me after that..”
and saying “Yeah.. so what?” This will also come under voice category. Then smell. When you offer curry to someone
saying that it was made in your home, They did not scold. But it meant
that is was really horrible. This means it was so good. Right. Time. I didn’t answer you when
you have asked the question. I would be doing like this.
That means I am not interested in you. If any one of these gestures is exhibited, Even an illiterate person would understand
because he knows the body language. Moreover, to talk to a literate
person, a language is required. An illiterate would do this. Hence,
you have to observe the body language. You try to observe all these
types of non-verbal communication. The best thing you have to do is this.
Smile pleasantly. Ok? When you attend interviews, When you talk to new people, When you are listening to your wife, When you are listening to your father, When you are listening to your husband, Put aside whether you do it or not,
but do this. Right?
Farewell. Since you have been watching this programme
regularly, I feel very happy. To make this programme…

83 comments on “How to Attract Others With Your Body Language? | Personality Development | BV Pattabhiram

  1. relationships or friendship develop chesuko valante communication important kani naku sodhi kaburulu pettalante chiraku..emina matladadham ante emi matladalo ardam a result i end up being silent but maintain smile..most times, even social networks kuda ekkuva ga use i hve vry few frndz..even relatives aina daggara felling ravatla…i feel comfortable being alone..but i also feel i am missing something…am i on d wrong track??? by d way i have complete control on me & i dont have any bad habits..

  2. Sir sir sir please make a video about our traditional Indian medicine ayurveda sir that is superior to any make aware please make a video sir im ayurvedic medicine and surgery student sir

  3. sir NAMASKARAM name RAMARAJU VZM Mee program regular ga watch CHESTANU Chala bagunnai MAA papa Bsc studying college lo friends tho chuttalu tho Baga matladi tundi but valla mammy deni gurinchi cheppina insult ga feel avuthuntundi PL couciling ivvagslaru

  4. Good morning sir,
    I am one of the big fan to u from my child hood. I have watched number of videos and I have changed my self also.
    Sir, I have completed MBA Marketing in 2012 in the same year you are visited my college and given a great seminar also., now I am working for a big national wide educational institute. As a Marketing exicutiv from one year recently I got Promotion As a Asst.Manger. now I am the incharge for total marketing team to my branch. But I am unable to justify to that role.i am the perfect at executive level.but superior observing every activity of my self in the company. Earlier it was not there.they are suggested me two times till now Ashok now u r the manager think like that don't behave like a executive, now u have to handle all the team.
    But it is not happening. Because I worked with same team nearly one year then we all are same cader now how can i demand them regarding work?? Sir please suggest me how can I justify to my role..

  5. Thank you sir…. మీ videos చూస్తున్నాను i feel better…..
    Useless thought రాకుండా ఎం చేయాలి….

  6. Thanks sir nenu maradaniki idi chala upayoga paduthai nenu appudu vinaledu intha great msz mee books chadiva gani vinaledu

  7. sir,

    meeru samasyalni baaga vivristhunnaru. kaani vaati parishkaralu sarigga vivarinchatledhu.
    ala cheyakoodadhu ani cheppadam, aa samasya leni vaallaki chaala thelika. kaani oka patient convince ayyela cheppagaligithe baavuntundhi. yendukante konthamandhi meerannatu memu inthe ani mondigaa vuntaaru, kaani kontha mandhi maarudhamanna yela ani theliyadhu oka vela thelisina chaathakaadhu. kanuka meeru parishkaaralu konchem visleshinchi cheppandi.


  8. సార్.. విద్యార్ధులు చదువుకోటానికి అత్యంత సమర్ధవంతమైన timetable ఎలా prepare చేసుకోవాలి.. చెప్పండి.. చాలామందికి ఉపయోగపడుతుంది..

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  10. sir i am very fond of your videos. sir I have a problem, I am studying mbbs ,from the beginning of my academic year i'll study daily and I will score good marks in my class tests almost I will be in the top 10 out of 200 but whenever I'm preparing for the final exams, my friends come and interrupt me for their time pass, discussion about the written exam for 2 hours like that. when that much time is wasted I'll be thinking about the lost time and I will stop studying, even I am unable to tell my friends not to disturb me and i can't tell I want to study thinking that they might feel bad about me. so in final exams every year I'll be scoring less marks. my lecturers everyone will be having high expectations on me. this happens every year and I'll feel bad about this. I'm not bold enough to tell them not to disturb me and all my friends who disturbs me knows this weakness of mine very well. they take advantage of my weakness. sir I request you to help me, either in a video or in any manner. please

  11. sir nenu mind magic book చదువు tuntey maa lecturer aa book teeskoni
    veedendho manasu maata book chaduvutunnadu ani..maa H. O. D ki cheppindi.. amey endhukamma aaa books chadivi pichodivi avutav anindi
    amey cheppina matallo nijam ledhu ani ameyni class lo iddarni hypnotise chesaa alagey maa clg office boy kooda nenu per day 2 hrs meditation chestanu… nannu evaru hypnotise cheyaleru antey aayananu positive gaa maarchi hypnotise chesanu… ippudu amey daggara nunchi naa book ela ippinchu koovali sir

  12. Hai sir me vedieos ani cusutunan pillaliki usefulga untunnai ma babu 8th class atanki overconfidence negligence careless anniunnai exams Ella rasau ante super antadu marks 50% vastai nextime repead kakunda custanu ma antadu please any solution chehara sir

  13. Thank you very much for our fantastic response. I understand that most of the viewers are interested in communications skills. people are asking me to recommend the books on Body languag I suggest two books which I read 1) Body language by Julius fast and the second is same title by Allan + arbara. In telugu my book MAATE MANTRAM is also good

  14. friendship ela evaritho cheyali dhanni ela continue cheyali chepandi sir?andharitho bagundali antunaru kadha andharu manalni accept cheyaru kadha vari manasulo place ela gain cheyali?working institutions lo chala kashtanga undi sir

  15. nenu nammina vallandaru nannu mosam chestunnaru. etharulatho jagratha ga undadam ela sir cheppandi please……..

  16. I do not like atract any body accept my self having learnt dressing of sports dressing like to be as a sports woman not like atract any body accept my self

  17. I do not like atract any body accept my self having much thirst on sports wear I wear the moovement of body like sports man there is no any intention atract any body accept my self

  18. Merako man pasandh nahi akarsh sabse logo Kho mera sareer Nirmaan Isay kuch naye maalum mera mun pasandh nahi logo sabsay loghoko akarsh Karega

  19. Master minds guruuvarya mero ko koye naye mera saree ko pasandh karega mera dhimak sarree Isay maroon Kho koye nahi chahiye mera

  20. Sir body writes for death fraction time this much effection on me the group of departments as hard as killed murder by even Street grown dogs attacked coming on me body never permanent atract anybody body waits getting die as fast as from even this effection on my group of croud of careless mind less street study dusts psychologically as hard as killed me by Street grown dogs coming on me and

  21. Sir I do not like atract any body body language by birth I would be like that otherwise mind body never working

  22. Sir am sorry you are mistaken by birth my body grown like this do not like atract any body body language the shape of work technical power work remaing like this only

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